I’m always amazed how people compare their new puppy with a dog they owned years ago, lamenting the perfect dog they once had and fretting over the disobedient, hyperactive pup they now own.

Often the dog they lost was 14 years old and never had a rebellious moment in its entire life.

It was quiet, calm loving, loyal and always came when called. There were fairies living at the bottom of the garden, a goose that laid golden eggs and all the streets were paved with gold.

Actually, there wasn’t but nostalgia can play all sorts of tricks on us.

We didn’t own a ‘perfect’ dog either but that’s the way it seems compared to the bundle of fur currently flying around the lounge.

That old dog was once a rebellious little puppy too but it’s so long ago we’ve forgotten.

We only remember him tagging along faithfully at our side or sitting by the fire as we watched television. It’s our selective memory at work and it can be very damaging to our relationship with our new puppy.

Your new dog is no better or worse than your old dog, he’s just different.

But with training, consistency and sound leadership, he’ll be a loving and loyal companion for years to come.

A dear friend of mine has three daughters now all grown up adults. One is a solicitor, one is a professional dancer and the third is serving a lengthy term at Her Majesty’s pleasure.

These are three siblings from the same family with totally different personalities. So why would we expect every dog we ever owned to be the same?

Clearly they are as diverse as we are but they can all be happy, relaxed, well-balanced individuals. It’s all down to training and relationship.

If you need help with your, dog join one of my classes and we will show you how.

You can contact Vic direct at 07590 560012 or by email at vicbarlow@icloud.com.

By Guardian columnist The Dogfather